This is the first article in a four-part series about your relationship with work: Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4

Whether it is the turn in the economy or the incessant demands of the millennials, the tide has turned in the workplace. More people have more options when it comes to what they do, for whom and for how much.

As choices increase, and the upper hand returns to the workers, what can employees do to determine if they are in the right place, doing what they should for the right amount of money? In this series, we will explore the answers to those questions for employees at different stages in their careers. In part one, we will start with those of you actively seeking a job.

Many long-term employees consider themselves married to their jobs. If that is the case, then those of you looking are certainly in the dating stage. It's critical to realize the similarities so you can avoid those same traps that lure you into a second date with the guy who lives in his mom's basement.

First, remember: Everyone is putting his best foot forward. Like a first date, there are lots of extra preparations that go into that first meeting. It includes everything from how you look, to what you say and even where you meet.

But just like the date, realize there is some staging going on and do your best to see through it. For example, think of what you did to get ready and realize they did the same thing. In other words, you are interviewing them just as much as they are interviewing you.

Before you meet, think of the critical information you need to know before the end of the exchange and get it. Be as measured as you would with a potential mate (perhaps wait to ask the big questions until the second meeting, but only if that is your style).

The point is you are in just as much control of the situation as they are. Remember that when you show up.

Second, have an exit plan. On a date, you may have a scheduled text to help you escape. While you may not want to walk out of an interview early, you certainly should be prepared to get out of the situation as quickly and painlessly as possible if it is not going your way. It is a small world, and the last thing you want is to burn bridges. Try to remain friends.

Conversely, if it is going well, know when and how to commit. The rules used to be that all serious conversations were delayed until after a couple of rounds of interviews. But like dating, that is no longer everyone's style. Know what your style is and use some basic interpersonal skills to figure out their style.

The bottom line is this: Times have changed. The ball is now in your court, which means it is incumbent upon you to know who you are and what you want. If you are comfortable and confident in what you do and how you do it then make sure that comes through.

And if it does not work for this interview, there are always more fish in the sea.