Previously, we discussed some of the keys to landing a civilian job with some great insight provided by my recruiting colleagues. However, I have checked in with CEOs at companies that consider themselves veteran-friendly and asked them to describe the employees who have been most impressive in their transition from the military to positions in their organizations.

Here are four myths that may help you put all that recruiter advice in some perspective.

1. Follow the rules.

Several of the larger organizations I work with provide manager-training programs as a way for veterans to get their foot in the door. These are great opportunities, but it was clear from those leading the programs that some of the most successful candidates never ended up finishing the program.

While it is important to follow orders through what are often regimented programs, it was evident that those who were clear about what they wanted and where they could provide value to the company were often cherry-picked out of the program by the department in which they wanted to work.

Bottom line: Be clear about what you want when you join one of these programs and then look for opportunities to make your expertise, skills and desire known to the right people.

2. Translate your experience so anyone can understand it.

This myth is true, to a point. You did amazing things that civilians cannot understand, but it is OK to point that out in the right way. Many civilians just do not understand military rank or job titles, let alone what it means to deploy or learn a completely new job in weeks. But they do understand change, being uncomfortable, moving targets (and hurrying up and waiting) as well as having challenging bosses.

Remember, most people want to relate and connect, especially with co-workers. Demystify your experience for them. Find a way to tell them what you did in a way they can understand, but do not be afraid to add in the details that make the experience in the military different than the one in the office. That extra perspective will help them relate to you and your military experience on an even deeper level.

3. Lighten up, you're not in anymore.

You may not have the same grooming rules to follow as you did, but there is definitely something working in your favor if you show up fit, groomed and ready. Work the military myths that are in your favor: You have a great work ethic, can take orders, and have a fantastic learning curve. Furthermore, you always look professional and are punctual.

All of those stereotypes come through when you show up looking like you just left the military. Remember that before you get those extra-long red nails or grow out that goatee.

4. Take the job, it's been offered.

This issue is not limited to transitioning military. Especially in this economy, everyone falls victim to this: I was offered the job, I need it so I take what is offered. To a person, the leaders I talked to all had respect for someone who negotiated about either the job or the salary — to them it meant you were taking the offer seriously.

Interviews are a two-way street. Even if you need the money, take a second before you say yes. Find someone in the company (if you have not already) who was in and talk to them about the culture, the pay and responsibilities. Is the company known for being cheap? Are job descriptions a joke?

Gather intel, use your skills to get the job you expect and want so you can be clear about what you are doing and how the pay lines up with your expectations.